21 yr old son attends top college continued problems with female intimacy

posted 20 months ago by boxahpowah

My son, who is extremely high functioning and attends a top college is dealing with intimacy problems with women.  His childhood has had trials and tribulations with friendships.  He is grown so much but the one area that bothers him the most is basically a fear of female intimacy.  He wants it so bad.  He is handsome and girls like him.  But when he is in a situation where he could "give a kiss" or a "hug" the way a 21 year old boy would, he gets to frightened and ends up not following through. He is so frustrated with himself.  Any suggestions of how to work through this?

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  • Kim

    He prabally gets frighten because he's not sure what to do. He may want to kiss or hug her but may not be sure if it is the right thing to do or worry about how she may act. Many people with Asperger's or High Functioning Autism may have genuis level intellegence but still have the courtship skills of a teenager who is just starting to date. It might help if he explain to the girl about his autism and come up with clues or hints to help him realize when it is okay to make his move. For example: If they are sitting together on the couch and she grabs his hand and holds it. That could be a sign to him that it is okay to kiss or hug her without upseting her.

    7 months ago

  • sean

    well if he is starting out maybe he should ask her if its ok to hug her or kiss her thats what i did

    2 months ago

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